Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes.
Christine Saunders | Empowerment Coach “The Heartbeat” Radio show Host/Writer
Take the first step… action… become creative. Creativity evokes emotions, and emotions create motion as in action!
My suggested first step is… To chunk it out and ask yourself a series of questions. I call it. Loss Less Never Opportunities (LLNO) then you have a launching point. Do I feel like I have LOST something? Do I feel like I have LESS of something? Do I feel like I may NEVER have something? What are my OPPORTUNITIES right now in this space? It begins and ends with love.
Frannie Crumrine | Denver hairstylist for 10 years| I love to help my guest feel and look amazing!
My advice for taking on a challenge. Is to break it up into smaller pieces, and acknowledge each achievement to keep you motivated!
Debbie Waines – life, gratitude and widow coach
I believe that all things can be conquered with the right mindset. First and foremost live a life of gratitude. In some of my darkest days it was the mindset of gratitude that helped me conquer the moment, literally (one moment at a time). Gratitude will change everything in your life, if you just give it a chance.
Anita Lee, Personal Trainer and Nutrition Coach
My advice is to take everything one day at a time and find gratitude in daily life.
Kim Hernandez- dance fitness instructor and hairstylist
My advice is when all things seem to be against and you feel like giving up keep pushing because that’s the storm before the sunshine. You must go through the dark days to have the brighter days. I’ve been there and have wanted to give up so many times but I knew all my hard work and dedication would conquer the bad! It’s cheesy but it’s true don’t sell yourself short. My favorite quotes is “you’re questioning your potential while others are intimidated by your potential”
Kaylee Ann Esthetician/Owner at Skin Love Aesthetics
I would say that we are our greatest critics and cheerleaders and only we can stop our selves from overcoming things. So when we can truly realize that then we can achieve anything because we know that we are the only ones responsible for the outcome.
Amy Shenk Morrison, Therapist, Coach, and Trainer
When you feel overwhelmed by a challenge that seems insurmountable, get connected with what is within your control. When my clients feel overwhelmed, I remind them that they don’t have to have everything figured out right now but they can choose to control some aspects of their life. They can take the time they need to take small steps toward figuring out their issue by connecting to what they actually have control over and letting go of what is outside their control.
Jen Williams, Healthy Lifestyle Coach & Mom
Don’t go through life and your challenges alone. Surround yourself with positive people who will lift you up and support you. I believe we become stronger and better when we open our hearts to one another. Together, we can overcome!
Lea Artis — Coach, Mystic, Alchemist to Entrepreneurs and High Achievers
There are often external factors that make us feel like something is impossible, but just as importantly the inner factors are actually the ones that stop us in our tracks and make it feel like we can’t get past, through, or over what is happening.
I’d invite you to look at the inner pieces—your emotions and thoughts—as the dynamics that are contributing to feeling the challenge ahead is insurmountable, even if it feels like the reality is there is just too much to overcome or be able to change or do.
When those often ignored inner factors are at play, you have a much harder time being creative, seeing and thinking clearly, or finding a way forward.
So here’s how to look at them: Ask yourself, what’s at stake here? What am I afraid will or won’t happen?
By doing this, you’ll engage directly with any fears and see what those fears are trying to show you. Your fear is actually your friend, but we never learn how to find the wisdom and desires in them, we just are told to avoid them.
The second thing I would do is get clear on what feels like it’s the scariest or most impossible piece to deal with and really question if the assumptions you have about how this will or won’t work out are true. Often times, we think in catastrophic terms, that the sky will fall, but we really have to come back to knowing that our basic needs are covered, and that we can lean in and ask for help or get people to work with us if we’re having challenges with something (a deadline, a payment, etc) being met. If this piece is indeed immovable, then you’ll be able to get clear that this thing needs to be solved for and you can then come up with creative ways to do so.
Finding small ways into a task or issue that feels insurmountable is essential—it creates momentum and gives you a way forward, so you can start eating the elephant one bite at a time. So try to find the smallest thing you can do, something that takes 5 or 10 minutes or that is 5 or 10 minutes of the first step or activity to help you pierce the resistance and create the action you need. A big part of my work with high achievers, is looking at the pressure we place on ourselves and questioning if it’s really real or true. If you’re telling yourself that you have this impossible or overwhelming thing in front of you, you’re more likely to procrastinate and feel defeated. By trusting that you can start to lean in to the actual inner and outer aspects of it, you’ll be able to pierce the ballon of overwhelm and take the air out of it.
Last, but not least: connect with someone to help you get additional perspective on any of the pieces I’ve mentioned above. When I’ve been in my worst challenges, working on them alone in my room just keeps me further down. When I lean into my friends, they’re able to help me relieve some of the stress and emotion I’ve put on myself so I can release what’s keeping me blocked in the first place, and so I can feel more possible about ways forward.
Elisa Browsh – owner, Elyria Jewels
The best advice I would have for someone coming up against a great challenge would be to take slow and steady action. Everyday efforts turn into powerful forces with their own inertia when we aren’t looking.
Pretty Honore Recording Artist & Staff Writer at xoNecole.com
JUST BREATHE, and remember that there’s no test that you will ever encounter that you are aren’t already prepared for. Sometimes we don’t know how strong we are until we have an opportunity to prove it, and that’s exactly what those tests are. It’s important to remember that you know everything you need to know and have everything you need to have in order to be successful. There’s no man, woman, or challenge that’s big enough to crush you if you can keep that in mind.
Leslie Eliseia Schaller – Personal Trainer and Nutrition Consultant
We often forget to look at our struggles as an opportunity to grow and learn. In times of hardship, thinking “how can this experience make me a better person?”, “What can I take away from this challenge?” may be the last thing to cross your mind. However, reflecting on your situation in this manner may aid positively in changing your perspective. Whatever it is you are facing, take it day by day and know you are not alone.
Keep in mind that new beginnings often hide behind pain. Emotions, good and bad, are temporary and all apart of the complex human experience. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? Hang in there!
Ivonne, health and wellness influencer
When faced with a challenge that I find insurmountable I like to keep one quote in mind, or rather question, which is: are you gonna bitch out or boss up? and the answer is, “both.” Sometimes in the face of adversity or tough challenges people assume you’re supposed to put on a tough face and clench your fist, and yes while that is true, there is no weakness in breaking down. You can’t expect to grow if you don’t recognize your weak spots and tough moments. You have to keep going. You WILL get through whatever you’re going through. It WILL be hard. You WILL want to give up. BUT not without a fight. I like to picture my “ultimate” self, my most successful, happy, good-looking version of myself and try to picture that. becausethat person won’t get to be that person without enduring all the hardship you’re going through now. So cry. Nap. Yell. Cry some more until you feel numb. Because life is not going to stop for your bad moment. So pause, and just keep breathing. Boss up now.
Clara Higgins – Owner of The Bee Dynasty Glass Gallery/ Social Media Influencer
I feel like its easy to forget what we have accomplished. Weather we face mental or emotional obstacles, business, love or health challenges. We have all had to work hard to face a fear, or make a difficult decision. In these moments those obstacles can seem enormous and unobtainable, ruthless and impossible to survive from, but we do it every time. We survive. That giant mountain will always seem big at the base. But if we climb that mountain it becomes a hill in our memory and each time we have to remind ourselves that these mountains will be hills after we get to the top. Don’t forget what you have accomplished and overcame and don’t let fear be the origin of your actions or reactions. Have those bathroom mirror pep talks and kick some ass!
Bethany Boo (Woolcock) – Custom Cake Creator
You can’t have a peak without a valley. The view from the top of Mt. Everest is unlike any other place in this world, but that is because of the depth of the valley that surrounds it. You can climb any peak, whether Everest or something else, but simply taking one step at a time through the valley. As we say at BethanyBoo Cakes, don’t just dream, but dream bigger. There is a person out there, waiting for you to join at the peak. Go get them.
Jaimee Larsen – Pastry Chef & Mom
The best advice I could give to someone facing an insurmountable challenge: This challenge will not last forever. It’s entirely up to you to do something in the time that passes. As long as you do your best, you will not feel that your time has been wasted. It’s really easy to not believe in yourself and just let the challenge overtake you, but it is far more rewarding to act.
Ronne Pierce – Boudoir, Couples, Portrait and Fine Art Photographer, Artist & Unschooling Mom
The best thing you can do when you are facing an obstacle that you think is insurmountable, is to take action. The small steps toward a goal done day in and out with persistence and dedication will always lead to a positive result. And even if it isn’t the exact result you were hoping for, you will inevitably be closer to progress or success. The only way to let obstacles beat you is to give up. Don’t give up.
Abbey Walker – Entrepreneur and stay at home mom
Keep going!! You are stronger then you realize! The universe does not give you anything you can’t handle. Your mindset and outlook on the situation makes all the difference!
As useless as it may feel, start the each day by saying “I am _____, and I can handle anything!!”
Mindset makes all the difference!
Jojo – Personal Trainer and Health Coach
To take a deep breath and know that you already have every tool inside you to overcome any obstacle. This is a time for growth. Get ready, because you are about to level up😏
Eva Elizabeth – Newborn, Maternity and Family Photographer
When I’m facing a challenge that feels insurmountable I like to break things down into tiny pieces that feel more manageable. As a business owner and mom of 3 little ones I know if I’m going to get anything accomplished I need to focus on just one small piece of my goal each day until It comes together!
Natalie Noon certified Health and wellness coach
Argue back with the negative self-talk and constantly tell yourself “I can, I will and I’m better than the negative thoughts”!
Kaitlyn Beale – dance instructor & criminal justice student
My best advice for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is unsurmountable is… don’t give up. People overcome unsurmountable things all the time. Truly the deciding factor may just be luck, but it also can be how much you believe in yourself. So, don’t give up.