Today we’re excited to introduce you to Tami Kiekhaefer. Tami is a Psychotherapist, Yoga Instructor and is also a content partner. Content partners help Voyage in so many ways from spreading the word about the work that we do, sponsoring our mission and collaborating with us on content like this. Check out our conversation with Tami below.
Tami, it’s been too long since we last connected. Thanks so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with our community again. Some readers might have missed our prior conversations, so maybe you can kick things off for us with a quick intro?
Hello and thank you so much for having me be a part of your Spotlight Series. My name is Tami Kiekhaefer and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I’ve been in private practice for 20 years providing individual and couples therapy to men and women. Over the decades of working with people, I notice there are a lot of lonely people out there. People unable to find love, people who thought they found love but couldn’t be lonelier, and people who just keep finding one toxic relationship after another.
I have developed a clinically proven strategy to help women become more empowered, so they are available for healthy, loving relationships. I am here to share this with you now.
Can you tell us a little about your private practice, who you serve and what areas of expertise you have?
I have been in the field of mental health since 1994, but owned and operated a private practice since 2002. I work with adolescents and adults, couples and families. My expertise is around issues of anxiety, depression, domestic violence, trauma, grief, and helping couples build healthy relationships.
What opportunities do you have for people to work with you right now?
I am currently accepting clients in my private practice. However, I am very excited to offer several other ways to work together. I have written a book called Preparing for the Jungle: Avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love. Presales will be offered in Fall 2021. However, I developed an online, 7 week, but self-paced, core curriculum called Preparing for the Jungle. I developed this clinically proven strategy aiming to empower women, so they are emotionally and mentally prepared for a healthy, loving relationship. We begin with examining the past- family roles, attachment styles and personality types we developed into. Next, we identify what communication and conflict resolution styles were role-modeled to us as we grew up. Then we analyze the present, understanding past relationships, developing non-negotiables, building confidence, and learning about forgiveness. Grasping aspects of fear and what holds you back, as well as what is crucial for a healthy relationship. Lastly, you will cast your net and put into place all that you have learned in this core curriculum.
I also have a free, members only Facebook group called Women’s Empowerment Toolkit.
So there are many options to work together right now.
What upcoming projects do you have?
My book that I have just completed is going through the publishing process as we speak! The book is called Preparing for the Jungle: Avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love. Utilizing the sequence, I have developed in this book, women will feel more empowered and have a step-by-step guide to finding the love of their lives. I believe that when we learn to respect and honor who we are, we put out an energy that also attracts others who do the same. Without internally having this level of confidence, we are more likely to be attracted to the wrong type of partner, end up lonely and depleted, and wonder what in the world happened to us. Again.
Although the book won’t be released until Jan 2022, the core-curriculum is available now. This is an online course, accompanied by a downloadable workbook and a video for each section, where I will walk you through the entire process. Along with the online core curriculum, you will be invited to a VIP FB group with other women who have invested in this self-improvement journey. There, you can share your experiences, ask questions and build a tribe with like-minded women.
Why do you feel this is a need for people?
Working with thousands of women over the last 20 years, I have heard the stories from 1st loves to 5th marriages, from one-night stands to 35-year relationships. One thing that the women who I have worked with that struggle to find and maintain a healthy relationship is a lack of confidence. The word “confidence” is vague but encompasses a multitude of aspects. It is based on your internal dialogue, how you communicate your needs, how you manage conflict, and your ability to forgive yourself and others. Our society is getting better, but the damage on women’s confidence and internal sense of self has been done. We were taught to compare ourselves to others from a young age. Today’s social media doesn’t help much in that department either. I aim to help women love and trust themselves first, before they get out there into the dating world. I encourage them to pay attention to red-flags, warning signs of toxic behavior. Understanding your personality type can help navigate why you are attracted to a particular type of person. Are you a fixer, or dependent on others? Do you get your needs met without considering other people?
As you can see, finding healthy, loving relationships starts internally. I see people jumping into the dating scene way before strengthening themselves first. Preparing for the Jungle is a step-by-step method to address specific areas which will only leave you feeling an internal sense of control, peace, and stability. What better way to then get out into the “jungle”?
How do you know the course content actually works and can help women feel more empowered?
Who out there hasn’t had their heartbroken, felt like they would be alone for the rest of their lives, and wanted to hang up the idea of getting back out there to date a new person? It’s exhausting! Especially the older you get and have kids, a career, and your own ways of doing things. How do I know this course works? Because I lived it! Well, I hadn’t developed the course yet, but I when I stopped to evaluate my own, personal romantic relationship life, I knew I had to make some major changes. I had lost my sense of self in codependent relationships, I’d been whittled down to nothing in abusive relationships, I’d let a good one slip away, because it scared the hell out of me. I had been married for 12 years with 2 beautiful kids, and that was good, until is wasn’t anymore. So, I had to figure out what was wrong with me. What was my part in why these relationships failed? I decided to really do the work on myself and evaluate my internal sense of self; how I managed conflict, where my confidence and self-respect was, how I defined my boundaries and my non-negotiables. I had to evaluate how I grew up and my past relationships and decide what worked for me and what I needed to shift. And that is how Preparing for the Jungle came to be. As I was working on myself, I was also talking with my clients about these crucial factors that have to be addressed if you want a healthy, loving relationship. I developed a strategic pathway to include worksheets, tools and techniques. I believe in the paper/pencil work because it is easy to read or listen to a book, put it away and go on with your day. But until you make this process about your own life, your own experiences and actually do the work, things won’t change. I have become so empowered and confident in myself, that my energy shifted. That is when I was available for a healthy relationship and that is when I met my now, fiancé, Jim. I never knew this type of connection existed. We can be ourselves, we can have arguments, we can overcome these arguments with effective communication. We accept each other, but we always strive to respect, appreciate and trust each other. As I work with men and women in my private practice, I run them through aspects of Preparing for the Jungle. The feedback I receive are statements of, “This should be a required course in college”, and “Why have I never given a second thought to how important these concepts are?”.
So how do I know if works? I can speak from personal experiences as well as from hundreds of clients I have put to the test. Being prepared for the jungle starts with you and I have a proven method to get you on your way.
How can people get in touch with you and what other connections do you have for women to immediately get involved in for free?
Calling all women! You can join my free Facebook group. Women’s Empowerment Toolkit or click here:
This is a group that is a safe place for women to gain tools, techniques to strengthen your confidence and self-worth. Join this amazing tribe in a group where you will get support, share your story and receive daily posts to provoke a positive, internal sense of self.
You can also learn more about me on my website: www.healthyhealing.net
Join the Free 5 day “Don’t Fake It, Face It” Challenge. Click here to sign up: https://tami3db993.clickfunnels.com/dont-fake-it-face-it
Also, sign up for my “Free Anxiety Relief” bundle here: https://tami3db993.clickfunnels.com/optinyn10gl5x
Thank you so much again for sharing all of this with us. Before we go, can you share with our readers how they can connect with you, learn more or show support?
I’m all over the place! You can find me here: www.healthyhealing.net
- Website: www.healthyhealing.net
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tamikieklcsw
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tami-kiekhaefer-32298a8/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/tamikiek
- Yelp: Tamara Kiekhaefer, LCSW
- Other: Women’s Empowerment Tooklit Facebook group- https://www.facebook.com/groups/womensempowermenttoolkit