Today we’d like to introduce you to Jillie Johnston.
Jillie, please share your story with us. How did you get to where you are today?
I started my business and focus on worthiness because more than anyone else I needed, and still need, the message of self-love. I questioned my worth, I doubted my abilities and looked outside of myself for acceptance, love, and approval. This has led to abuse, addiction to perfectionism, paralyzing fear and anxiety, body image issues, depression, and unhealthy relationships – including the one with myself. I didn’t want to feel this way anymore and decided to go on a journey to change.
The single biggest change and impact in my life has been choosing myself. It has been the realization that all I need is inside of me. I have to take time to know myself, develop my relationship with myself, know my truth, have the courage to speak it, and know that I am worth that. I work on this every day and I’m convinced I will never stop.
I’ve seen incredible people in my life doubt and question their gifts and talents. I have seen strong, beautiful women not know their power, be in abusive relationships, settle for less in their careers, and give up on dreams because they don’t know their worth. I am committed and determined to help people all over the world realize their potential, know their worth, and step into their power.
Has it been a smooth road?
This isn’t about the destination. This is about the journey.
I’ve overcome sexual abuse, my family being torn apart, financial struggle, severe anxiety and depression, breakdowns, heartbreak, loneliness, and moving around the world solo.
After college, I thought that I would find a job, find the partner of my dreams, travel the world, buy a house, and make a significant impact. I thought I would do all of this immediately after college. I mean, that’s all we are told, “Go to college.” And I always thought, “Then, life will work out.”
Well, I received a hard lesson from reality. As a former Division 1 athlete, I know the commitment, dedication, hard work, and perseverance. But, I didn’t know how to direct myself. I had lived my life trying to please other people, make others happy, and follow the rules, that when it was up to me, I didn’t know what I really wanted.
A year and a half after I graduated, I sunk into a deep depression. I found a few jobs, not using my degree and feeling like I had no purpose or direction in my life. All my relationships were in shambles. My family had fallen apart and I wanted some stability.
I was crying in bed one night wishing that someone would write me a love letter. I didn’t care who, I just wanted someone to tell me that they loved me, why they loved me, and their love wasn’t going anywhere.
At that moment, I realized that I had received love letters my whole life in all different forms. I had everyone’s approval and love, and the praise would fill the void I felt for a day or two, but then I’d need more.
Then I heard a message come crashing down on me from the universe, “Jillie, write yourself a love letter. That is the only love that really matters and that’s the only love that isn’t going anywhere. Until your love is enough, no one else’s love will be either.”
So, I got up and wrote a love letter. I wrote down everything that I wish someone would say to me. I wrote everything I wish I felt about myself and what I wish I could tell myself. Then, I made a vow that I would find a way to get there, even if it took me my whole life.
Ladies, it’s not about one moment. It’s about waking up six months from now and having something happen and realizing you aren’t beating yourself up like you used to. You wake up a little lighter with your heart more full. You begin to look at your relationships and wondering how and when did these amazing people come into your life. Opportunities begin to flood in and before you know it, you can’t wait to get out of bed to see what miracles are in store for you today. Or, you might wake up and not know how you are going to make it through the day, but you know you worthy of the effort to try. You know that you have the power in you to do it. It’s this feeling of worthiness that you never felt before. And, you did this. No one else did. You hold the power inside to change your life, your relationships, let things go, get a job that fills you, and have a life you ENJOY living. You are ALLOWED to be in love with your life.
We are supposed to feel everything… the ups and downs, the successes and failures, the joy and disappointment. Each of these experiences allows us to grow, learn, and relate to others. If the road was smooth, we could never identify with someone who hit a pothole. Our connection to one another gives us meaning to life.
So, the next time you face adversity, ask yourself two questions:
1. How is this working FOR me?
2. How can I find joy/gratitude in this experience?
Please tell us more about your work, what you are currently focused on and most proud of.
I help women know and recognize their worth. I help them see they are deserving of the love, job, body, and life they dream about. I help them heal the past traumas and let go of old beliefs that keep them from achieving their vision. Then I help them get clear on what they want to create and the steps they need to take to get there.
I am proud of the fact that I do this because I walk the walk. I practice what I preach every single moment of every single day. I love deeply and care immensely about people. Love is my most important value and my job is to show up as the highest version of love every day for myself and everyone in my life.
I am most proud of the relationship I have with myself and what has manifested in my life because of it. I know I am with the man of my dreams, living my dream (#vanlife), traveling the country come July 1st, impacting women all over the world, having grace and compassion with myself, and wake up every day grateful because of one reason… the effort I’ve put into learning, healing, and loving me.
Finding a mentor and building a network are often cited in studies as a major factor impacting one’s success. Do you have any advice or lessons to share regarding finding a mentor or networking in general?
Show up authentically and genuinely curious about others. Go into every day with an intention and instead of asking, “What can I get out of this?” Ask the question, “What can I give?” Put your phone away, make a genuine connection, ask questions about people’s lives, how they got to where they are, and what lesson’s they’ve learned.
Networking can happen in ANY way. Show up every single day like YOU MATTER. Because what you say, how you act, the decisions you make, matters. You matter in bigger ways you can ever imagine. Don’t ever discredit or discount yourself by showing up in a way that you don’t matter. When you do this, when you show up as the highest version of yourself, you are magnetic and people flock to you. It’s not networking, it’s connecting.
- Website: www.jilliejohnston.com
- Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
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