Life and Work with Amanda Testa

Today we’d like to introduce you to Amanda Testa.

So, before we jump into specific questions about the business, why don’t you give us some details about you and your story.
Something I often see working with high achieving women as a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, is that they are constantly juggling, trying to do ALL the things.

From the outside, it may appear they are thriving, but inside they struggle with balancing the passion they have for their business, with the passion they have for their partners, and themselves. They are tired of the hamster wheel and the constant hustle, of burning the candle at both ends and having nothing left at the end of the day.

And I can relate.

When I left my corporate career to stay home with my daughter, I still had that type A drive. I was going to be the perfect stay at home mom. I was going to do everything right.

I will never forget this one snowy morning when my daughter was a little over a year old. I was shuffling into the bathroom (whilst kicking toys out of the way and grumbling to myself how I’m the only one who ever does anything around here)…

I looked at myself in the mirror and had ZERO connection with the woman looking back at me.

I felt so disconnected. I was super resentful before my day even began, lashing out at my poor little family because I was just miserable inside.

Wasn’t I doing all the right things for myself?
I was working out, I was involved in the community, I was doing all these things, but something deep was missing.

At that moment I made a promise to myself that I was gonna do whatever it took to find myself again. I would follow whatever bread crumbs came across my path.

I stumbled across an online program thinking it would spice things up in the bedroom. Little did I know, it would change my life dramatically.

I felt alive again. My confidence returned. My patience skyrocketed, my relationship did a 180.

Feeling the joy of waking up with energy and excitement for my day, I had forgotten what that was like!

I just remember after doing this work, I thought to myself.

WHY?? Why haven’t women been taught these tools around our sexuality?!

We’re never taught how to have thriving relationships. We’re not taught how to have amazing sex and thankfully, these are learned skills (and the education we do have is so fear and shame-based so it’s no wonder we have issues).

I decided at that moment to make it my life’s mission to help women turn things around, so I studied for years, and became a Certified Integrated Sex, Love and Relationship Coach among other things, and created my signature Feminine Fire Method.

I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development.

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When women own their sexual power their pleasure and creativity flourish. Their confidence and body image soar.
Their relationships deepen and they find the connection they crave.

And when you can connect to that power as a woman, it’s life changing.

Sex and relationship coaching is what I do, transforming women’s relationships with themselves is who I am.

Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
Haha – Absolutely not.

I love the meme going around that shows the road of success, that depicts the journey from here to there as a big scribbly line, that about sums it up. It’s not a straight line by any means. There are always setbacks and as you grow and scale, that continues.

Some of my biggest struggles were around learning to ask for help – you can’t do it all and you shouldn’t try to. Let go of that control and perfectionism, and get support. As soon as you can afford it in your business, create a team to support you.

And just keep going when it gets hard. Allow the emotions to flow, feel them fully, and then reconnect to the truth of who you are, why you are doing what you are doing, and get back to it.

Try and add in as much pleasure to the process as possible, it is key! Where can you have more fun in your business? How can you make what you are doing 10% more pleasurable?

Please tell us more about what you do, what you are currently focused on and most proud of.
I’m a Sex, Love and Relationship Expert and founder of Find Your Feminine Fire. I help busy high performing women ditch the guilt and overwhelm and live a life with a lot more pleasure and fun.

My clients feel incredible in their skin, tap into abundant energy, take sex from a “to do” to something they look forward to and enjoy better connection and fulfillment in their relationships.

In my years working with overwhelmed women, I see time and time again that we all have similar struggles.  No matter what it looks like on the outside, so many women feel stuck in the routine of life.

The good news is that is ABSOLUTELY doesn’t have to be this way.  I’m here to help them remember who they truly are.  The magnetic, powerful, confident feminine, sensual Goddess inside of them just need a little dusting off.

It lights me up to see my clients reclaim their Feminine Fire and jumpstart their life.

In my signature Feminine Fire Method, we use the best of modern therapeutic techniques and Neuroscience combined with the ancient wisdom of Taoist and Tantric practices to get all parts of the brain and body on board for transformation.

My job? To help these women re-ignite that connection to themselves that often gets lost in the hustle of life. To help them feel that spark again. They don’t need over-complicated strategies or countless hours in a therapist’s office. They just need a simple, straight-forward process to reconnect (without adding more to their plate.)

I’m most proud when my clients share their success stories, how they feel sexy and radiant every day, one of my clients recently shared that she feels like a lotus flower blossoming every day, or when they tell me their relationship has turned around, and they feel the sparks flying again like when they were first dating, or how my one client upped her fees by 15K after the confidence she gained thru our work, or how they move from painful sex to enjoying intimacy and having more expansive orgasms and pleasure than they ever thought possible.

I know many people can teach on theory, but what sets me apart is the years of study, practice, an embodiment I’ve undertaken to give a powerful transmission of the teachings. It is an honor to be sharing this important work.

I’m also very proud of my podcast, Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, where I interview experts in the field of sex, love, and relationships. So many can be intimidated by this work, so this is a wonderful place for people to start if they are looking to dive into sexuality work.

Are there any apps, books, podcasts or other resources that you’ve benefited from using?
I’m on a constant journey of learning, so there are so many, but in the realm of sexuality, there are 2 books I always recommend, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston and Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. They reveal some great takeaways from their books in my podcast, Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, as well.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.amandatesta.com
• Email: amanda@amandatesta.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abtesta/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FindYourFeminineFire/
• Other: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5dRwxl11MTOvKBSDkhh6Uw?view_as=subscriber

Image Credit:
Photos by Sara Lazio http://saralazio.com

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