Exploring Life & Business with Alexandra Falticeni of Divine Reconnections

Today we’d like to introduce you to Alexandra Falticeni. 

Hi Alexandra, can you start by introducing yourself? We’d love to learn more about how you got to where you are today?
Who I am now and the work I do all started with an energetic healer in the UK. Everything that has made me who I am stemmed from the violent and traumatic childhood I had. I was a child of abuse on all levels which lasted all through my youth until I gained the freedom to leave to college. I remember as a child having a calendar in my room which I used to mark off every day until I knew I was going to be leaving. How I was then and how I am now are two different people and it’s the self-healing journey that I have been on since 2004 that has helped me get to the other side. To describe the part of how I was would be to describe the child who was afraid to speak, afraid to cry, stayed small so she wouldn’t get noticed, and cause the sleeping tiger to awaken and attack. I always tried to please my father whenever I could because it kept his attacks off me. I would never stand up for myself and would cry when the attention came on me because it was the only way I knew that it would end. Somehow that was my only saving grace, my tears because that would quiet him. This part of my reality went on till I graduated, and when you live for that much length of time with something like this, this becomes your reality. You abuser almost defines what the rest of your life will look like, what your worth, what you will be able and not be able to do, and what type of people will love you. It affected every facet of my life; the financial ability to believe I could prosper, the conscious and subconscious view of myself, and the belief that I could attract someone who would never be like my father. It also affected how I dealt with people, I would constantly be on guard or in defense of myself because I always thought I was being cornered. I put this Joan of Arc armor around me and treated life as if I was in constant attack or defense, or a little bit of both. 

When I graduated college and started working and living on my own, my life was like a train going nowhere. Everything about me or how I felt about myself even was all driven by what my father had implanted into my DNA and my psyche. I was not good enough, I wasn’t capable, I would never amount to anything, I wasn’t worthy. I was in a job that reflected that drinking heavily with no boundaries, partying till I would pass out. I didn’t even really know how to be in a relationship and when I did, I attracted all the same men who just shadowed the remnants of my father. I was always seeking affection with men who couldn’t give it versus allowing myself to believe that I was worthy enough to be loved by someone who was able to. 

Everything changed when my sister who was living in London at the time and I was visiting her for some respite, asked me to see this Energy Healer she had been seeing to deal with her own portion of the abuse. I remember feeling nervous because I felt safe with burying my head in the sand and I was uncomfortable with any attention upon me. I really would not be here, doing what I am doing if it hadn’t been for her pushing me to deal with my junk. That first healer made me realize just how deep the pain had gone and how deep it really had been. Her efforts had caused a chip in that armor I had built around myself and she made me realize I did not need to be in a place of defense any longer but in a place of power. 

That healing session was so profound that I knew I wanted to understand more about what “Energy Healing” was and I wanted to let all the past go. I did not want to be powerless, be shameful of what happened to me, and keep myself small because that was comfortable and safe. When I got back to the states, I hired Energy Healers and began my healing journey, which now has spanned about 18 years. The journey was a painful one (literally physically and emotionally) but it made me realize I was a survivor. I was one of the fortunate ones who were able to get the other side and finally understand that I could live a life, unapologetically, that was from my own place of power and choice. If I could get through all that darkness and finally get to a place filled with light, love, and abundance then so could any other person. For anyone in an abusive situation, you cannot feel anything because it is not safe too. It’s safer to live in an unemotional state of being that you can control than an unpredictable emotional state that is completely unknown. I did not even cry till I was 40 because my subconscious had it wired that being vulnerable meant you did not have power, or it made you less worthy of a person. 

I chose then in 2019 to be the beacon that others would need me to be. It took me to the later part of my own healing to realize that you must go back to that pain, to those old stories, the old trauma, and really feel the emotions so they can come up to be released. When you confront all of those things that do not serve you or your life, it’s amazing the transformation that can come through. The years of shame, vulnerability, and unworthiness have no power over me anymore, it has made me who I am today and what I can offer to the world. 

Alright, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall, and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
It has not been a smooth road in the first part of my life. Surviving abuse does not make it go away, it just buries it unless you deal with it head-on. I had confrontational situations with my previous bosses because I always felt like I had to defend myself or I dated men who just “took” what suited them but never gave back. I abused my body and never understood what self-care meant or the work that needs to happen so true healing can occur. It is only in this latter part of my life that I have been able to trust in the support around me, face my spiritual junk head-on, and let go. 

I always treated my life as if I was constantly defending it. I was always careful of what I said, not speaking up for myself, not using my voice for power, allowing others to take advantage of me, not “stirring the pot” so to speak. I never understood that how I reacted to something or someone was a direct correlation to an old implant from the abuse. It was just a reflection that was coming back to me about something I still felt or held onto that needed to be released. I will never stop working on myself because there will always be things that come up and affect my life in some way. My life will always be healing the I Am Not Good Enough and I Am Not Capable stories of my past but I can now at least recognize the energy when it comes up. 

We’ve been impressed with Divine Reconnections, but for folks who might not be as familiar, what can you share with them about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I named the business Divine Reconnections because it took many different modalities of healing to make me whole. It takes layers and layers of therapy via deeply connected roots to get to the bottom of an implant. Having multiple sources of healers, therapists, medical professionals, psychics, and even holistic practitioners helped me get the healing I needed to do to let all of the junk go. Thus, I named my business after the idea that you have to do all sorts of different investments in therapy to really reconnect to the essence and truth within you. 

I am a Psychotherapist and Energy Healer that distinguishes myself through the tools I use in my practice. In my sessions, I am using quartz singing bowls, essential oils, crystals, tuning forks, smudging, sound bowls, and intuitive channeling to help provide clarity to my clients. I also take clients through regression therapy and help them bring forth the old trauma in a safe environment and let it go. I have seen outstanding results, clients who have not only transformed themselves emotionally but physically. The difference in their physical appearance has been profound over many sessions. 

I would say I am most proud of the Energy healing practice I do because I am shifting something in my clients that cause an awakening for them. It has had profound effects on their relationships, careers, self-esteem, and power. To see my clients thrive in a reality they never thought possible or achievable is what makes it all worth it. 

You can actually have happiness, prosperity, power, and thrive in your life, all it takes is confronting the stories of your past that are actually keeping you stuck in a reality you know you do not want to be in. Healing abuse or trauma of any sort requires an act of bravery because you have to re-live it all again, face the emotions that you buried have for so long, and go to the deepest core of what that abuse entailed. It is possible to completely disengage from something like that and live life on your terms, your power, and be able to stop anything that is not in your highest and best from coming into your reality. 

My services can span as deep as a trauma healing or as light as an energetic clearing. Just like you get a massage to relax you, getting an energy clearing to move any heaviness or stuck energy is equally important. When shift happens, amazing things can truly come in! 

Who else deserves credit in your story?
I have had energy healers of all sorts in my life such as past lives practitioners, akashic records, energy healers, and psychics. My energy healing capabilities start with Reconnection Healing. I give credit to my Psychotherapist teacher who safely provided the environment I could finally cry in and show me the power of feeling my emotions and using my power to change the story. Every person I have seen over the years has taught me something different and I took a little piece of them with me into my practice. They all played a role in facing my abuse, facing what happened to me, and being able to say I was sexually abused out loud without any shame. They all helped me see how safe it was to go back to the pain, feel it, and then take my power back to let it go. They constantly teach me that any defense or old story coming up is just something for me to face about my past. Pull the thread and see what comes through so you can have an understanding of the story and where it came from. They have taught me the power of self-care and in receiving and believing that you are worthy of both. 

Contact Info:

• Email: alexandra@divinereconnections.com
• Website: https://divinereconnections.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divine_reconnections/
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