Meet Janice Formichella

Today we’d like to introduce you to Janice Formichella.

Hi Janice, so excited to have you on the platform. So before we get into questions about your work-life, maybe you can bring our readers up to speed on your story and how you got to where you are today?
I was raised in the Mormon faith and a very devout family. When I was roughly 20 years old I did something that I had never known anyone else to do and resigned from the church. I was ostracized from my family and entire community but never looked back. It is still the most challenging part of my life while still being the best decision I ever made.

I married young and was divorced before I turned 30. This experience taught me how much I could overcome and first planted the seed for me to become a breakup coach. It was very much a “worst-case scenario” when I realized the separation was the only option. I embraced the relationship I have with myself and learned healthy, empowering coping skills. I gained an understanding and deep enthusiasm for how rich life could be outside of a relationship.
But…

A couple of years later I met someone who I found brilliant, loving, and exciting. After we moved in together I discovered that I was in a very dangerous situation. He was a very severe alcoholic and a violent one. When I finally left for the last time I was so severely broken down that I could hardly function. I was scared to live alone, had exhausted my support network, and had little faith that I’d ever turn my life around. I was out of hope.

What I thought was a miracle happened shortly after. I fell into an opportunity to take a one-month trip to Australia. One month turned into five years, during which I built a social circle that meant everything to me. When I was awarded a work visa I felt as though all of my problems were answered and every prayer I’d ever prayed answered.
But…

Again I quickly discovered that I was in a horrible situation. The employer ended up being cruel, threatening, and highly exploitative. After having my social media accounts hacked and being stalked, I sued the company. But again, I was at square one in life. I honestly felt like giving up and thought about what that would really look like. I am glad I am here today.

What happened next *was* a miracle. Deciding that I could no longer live in chaos and looking externally for solutions, I chose to learn how to show up for myself. I embarked on a four-year spiritual and self-development journey. Those years took me on my path to help those struggling with breakups. Between my life story and this journey I have transformed into the reslient woman I am today.

Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
There was not a smooth mile on the road of my life until I committed to looking inward for support rather than hoping that external factors and relationships would solve my problems.

Ultimately, the devastations I described above were only created because of my lack of self-trust, confidence, and a desire to lean on myself for solutions.

I wouldn’t necessarily say I am thankful for hitting rock bottom more than once in my life, but I am thankful for the lessons I allowed the experiences to teach me.

Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your work?
I am a dating and breakup coach. I offer three different one-on-one coaching programs to help people heal from breakups, learn to love being single, and dive into one’s attachment style.

Additionally, I host two podcasts. The first, Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On is all about healing from a breakup. The next, Sex and the Solo Girl, is about doing relationships differently, with yourself and others.

We’re always looking for the lessons that can be learned in any situation, including tragic ones like the Covid-19 crisis. Are there any lessons you’ve learned that you can share?
Oh yes! One reason I am so, SO passionate about the power of learning to love being single is that I ROCKED the pandemic, living completely alone in a city I JUST moved to less than five months ago. I thought that everything going on in the world was truly sad. And yet I found the inner strength and self-trust to enjoy the solitude and learn so much from the experience.

Pricing:

• $24.97 – The Broken Heart Repair Kit
• $497 – Kick Your Breakup in the Butt – one-on-one coaching program
• $547 – Becoming Securely Attached

Contact Info:

• Website: https://payhip.com/b/kmclg
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janiceformichella/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janice.formichella
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janice-formichella/
• Other: https://calendly.com/janiceformichella/coaching-consultation