Meet Muriel Wiesner of PreParenting in Central West Denver

Today we’d like to introduce you to Muriel Wiesner.

Muriel, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
What does it REALLY take to be a great parent?

How important is the role of parenting in determining how the rest of our lives play out?

These questions have fueled my journey into the creation of PreParenting LLC.

In my many years of working with families, I began to realize that the influence parents have over their children is extremely powerful and life-long. The childhood experiences we have shape our lives in ways we are not used to considering.

Parenting is arguably the most important job that we can ever take on, but our society in no way prepares us for it.

I first discovered this while working in the home with families, then, I intuitively took my journey to the realms of conception, pregnancy and birth as well (as a birth doula and parent coach). This complete journey from pre-conception+ into parenthood really solidified my intuition that people feel unprepared and oftentimes “lost”, and began to open the window to how much of an impact parenting really makes.

Eventually, all of my research and work in the field with families brought me to the conclusion that there is a definite lack of information, support and resources for parents to learn how to THRIVE as the leaders of their families.

So I was curious, “Why not fill those needs earlier on, before a crisis hits?  Even better, why not prepare ourselves before we go into parenthood?”

And that’s when PreParenting was really “birthed”.

In our society, it is the “norm” to prepare for years readying ourselves to do well in our dream career. We typically date someone quite a while and often do some sort of premarital counseling or work to ensure that we know how to succeed in a long-term, committed relationship. Yet, there is no common form of preparation for the realities that come with being completely responsible for a brand new person (with their own quirks, personality and destiny).

Time after time, I meet parents who are deeply struggling with the task of parenting– unsure of how to navigate the journey with the least amount of pain and suffering inflicted upon their children, and themselves.

While part of being a Prepared Parent includes learning the wisdom of your body for labor/birth and beyond, how to care for your baby’s physical needs, and what you do and don’t need in your nursery– it has more to do with becoming a mature adult, healing your own childhood traumas and generational patterns, and becoming CONSCIOUS of the power and importance of your role as the leader of your family.

The way that we parent and support the generations to come determines the fate of our planet, and our ability to be great at it depends on how well we have prepared ourselves.

Preparation, in this case, is a matter of maturing yourself and connecting to your own inner wisdom to heal your own reactivity and patterns of fear.  This kind of preparation creates a foundation that supports a healthy relationship with your mind and your heart, which then enables you to give unconditional love to your children (and everyone else)!

When we heal our past and learn to look into our own inner world on an ongoing basis, it gives us the compassion, courage and reverence for life that is needed to be truly great leaders (rather than bosses).

The goal isn’t to be “perfect”, it’s not about NOT making mistakes– it’s about making mistakes, acknowledging them, forgiving them and correcting them on an ongoing basis, becoming the EXAMPLE for your children to model after.  We learn how to heal ourselves and become aligned with our own true selves, so that we can release the need for outside influence and affirmation, trust ourselves and lead confidently.

When we are able to parent from this space, we transform the family journey and generations to come.

Overall, has it been relatively smooth? If not, what were some of the struggles along the way?
I’m not sure anyone has a “smooth road”– I think the hallmark of human existence is that it’s an ever-changing, often challenging, but nevertheless beautiful journey. As for my own challenges, a big, life-long theme for me was one of “pleasing” others.

Interestingly, I also had a clear, extremely persistent mission in my heart that is requiring me to literally forge a new path, push serious boundaries, and breakthrough outdated paradigms. Which means I have had to ruffle lots of feathers and displease a lot of egos at times.

Learning how to truly let go of what other people think of me or how I am serving the world has been a struggle for sure. It takes a lot of courage to stand firm in your own path when it is different than the “norm”, and it can be easy to let that into your head and make you feel insecure.

Instead of letting fear or doubt rule, I choose to grow through it—and interestingly, I teach people how to do the same in order to be great parents and leaders in their lives.  I’m not sure I would be as good at teaching others how to trust their hearts if I didn’t have to learn how to trust my own.

I really believe life isn’t about “pleasing” everyone– that is impossible. I am here ONLY to be true to myself and serve the world with my unique gifts.  It isn’t about “me”, it’s about helping others, and when I find myself having doubts, I remember that.

There are always going to be struggles—and there are always going to be “haters”, but as long as you see them as lessons, instead of life-ruiners, you will be able to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get through any muddy life situations.

Being secure in yourself and connected to your mission is your only job, and when you are aligned with your heart everything else really does fall into place.

PreParenting – what should we know? What do you guys do best? What sets you apart from the competition?
To ensure that we safely navigate a vehicle, we take drivers-ed before we hit the road, right? Well, think of PreParenting as parent-ed– it prepares us with all we need to navigate the parenting journey.

PreParenting specializes in teaching parents how to be great parents BEFORE they have children, ideally. Although, it’s also NEVER too late to be prepared.

Rather than blindly entering into the world of raising a whole new human being, PreParenting helps to lay a strong foundation to grow healthy, resilient, successful children.

Most parenting stuff in our culture is centered around fixing “problems” your children have and learning manipulation tactics to control them– PreParenting lays a strong, love-centered foundation from before your children are even born. This foundation of principles allows the space for your children to be the most happy, healthy, and successful versions of themselves that they can without using any control tactics, or forceful “leadership”.

I have learned that in order to be healthy adults, we must have had a healthy childhood. But most of us don’t even know what that is, much less how to provide it! So I teach people what it truly takes, and then I help them to become that.

It is incredible to see the transformation that people experience in their hearts and lives by shifting from a traumatized, reactive inner-child, to a wholly mature adult able to be responsive and make parenting decisions consciously.

By simply healing her own past, Regine became a better, more confident parent almost overnight!

“Muriel helped me see a lot of things I needed to heal from were rooted in my childhood. Seeing this has helped me realize the importance of providing Zion with a childhood that allows him to flourish…. Muriel gave me tools… of surrender and healing. [This] has helped me with making decisions as a parent with confidence.” -Regine C.

PreParenting is worlds different than anything else in the parenting industry because it’s like preventative care for your (future) children and your best health and chances for a joyful life! By preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences and knowing how to shift gears and heal them, we are actually preventing the myriad diseases that are associated with a rough childhood. (It is actually proven that trauma in childhood changes our entire chemistry and increases the risk of TONS of diseases, mental and physical, later in life.)

PreParenting aims to teach people how to parent in a healthy way in order to prevent the risk of Adverse Childhood Experiences which cause disease and unhappiness later in life. Learning to avoid making common mistakes that are easily avoided and becoming emotionally mature yourself is the hallmark of a Prepared Parent.

What is “success” or “successful” for you?
Look at any confident child and you will see success.

Success is the nature of who we are under all of the illusions of unworthiness and fear.  It is what we come into this world KNOWING we innately have, but lose along the way due to belief systems that tell us we have to do or be differently than what our heart already knows.

We forget what success is because we start listening to other people or outside influences instead of our own hearts.

Success is following your heart and staying aligned with truth, compassion and peace even when life looks chaotic on the outside.

If you want learn how to be a great success through your parenting journey, and if you want your children to truly succeed in their own lives, please visit my website below to learn EVEN more about me and join a live, FREE webinar I am hosting on January 25, 2020.

Success is as easy as being prepared.

Visit my site to learn more!  www.pre-parenting.com

Contact Info:

• Website: www.pre-parenting.com
• Phone: 303-523-0306
• Email: preparenting@gmail.com
• Instagram: @PreParenting
• Twitter: @PreParenting

Image Credit:
Briana Jacobs @lovebrianaxo

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