We all think we’re being real—whether in public or in private—but the deeper challenge is questioning whether we truly know our real selves at all. In any case, even when we know ourselves we might face various pressures that push us to fit in or not cause trouble – so even the most well-intentioned person might struggle to always be 100% real in public. Sometimes the simplest questions are actually the most complex. Thankfully, we have some wonderful members of the community who offered to share their thoughts on this challenging question.
Mary Beth LaRue
Yes! Congruence is so important to me and one of my core values. And of course, my close friends and family have a very different, more private version of me, that’s natural. But in all the ways that matter, I strive for congruence. Read more>>
Lizeth Morales Tena
Well, as a PR professional, I can’t help but view it through that lens. In our industry, very little that’s presented to the public is ever completely ‘real.’ As public figures, we carry a responsibility to our audiences and fandoms—to be mindful of how our words and actions are perceived. Read more>>
Tiffany Starrett
Yes—and also, kind of a curated chaos version. My social media is full of ridiculous reels, quiet truths, and the occasional “what even is this day?” moment. I share the funny, the messy, the tender, and the real. I don’t do sparkle or polish. I do honesty, humor, and the kind of behind-the-scenes grit that doesn’t always make it into the caption. Read more>>
